Cheating Guys Spend a Lot of Time on the Toilet Guys believe they are intelligent until they begin to cheat. Everything is visible, yet they believe they have hidden their traces. They evolve. They alter their behavior. The way they speak, how they lead, and how they let down their guard.
They begin to isolate themselves even when you are present, and the time they spend in the bathroom grows longer than usual. They enter with their phones and emerge with a smile on their faces.
They profess to be the house leaders, yet they can’t lead themselves well when there’s cheating involved. Unless you’re not looking or don’t want to know, but if you are and have ordinary observational abilities, a cheating man becomes an open book.
My husband didn’t cease caring or doing his job as a husband, but I noticed it when another woman entered the picture. He was overjoyed and talked freely about things he wouldn’t talk about on a typical day.
When I questioned him about his day, his response was generic and brief: “My day was fine.” Just work and then go home.” “Office was really chaotic today, and to make matters worse, Alice was on my neck all day pulling me around as if I were his son,” it used to say.
Alice is his superior. After he brought her name up in the conversation, he’d go on and on about all the people in his office who helped him make his decision.
Because of this small talk, I knew everyone in his office by name. When we went to their end-of-the-year party, he would point to people and remark, “That’s Mavis.” It is John…”
My husband is quite comprehensive when he speaks, but after a lady began to fill his days, his responses became brief, and the time he spent with me after work decreased as well. He wants to stay in the corner of the hall, pushing buttons on his phone while pretending to work on his laptop.
He’ll laugh at himself while reading on his phone. He’ll type quickly. He’ll occasionally lift his head and gaze in my direction to see if I’m watching him.
I stole his phone one night while he was sleeping. There was only one place to look: his phone. The password was the same as the one he provided me when he pledged to be transparent, but his Whatsapp password was different.
I tried every combination I knew, but nothing worked. I immediately opened his iMessage and began reading whatever I could find. There was a link between him and the number Eli. I jumped right in.
Their last communication was three days ago. “Have you seen the photo I posted on Whatsapp?” Eli asked. “Let me check,” replied my spouse. The following message was an emoji. The one who is licking its lips. “You see why I’m crazy about it,” he remarked.
I began to imagine the type of snapshot she sent him that prompted him to say that. I returned to Whatsapp to attempt another combo.
It was ineffective. I returned to iMessage and browsed till I came across another series of texts. “We should have met sooner,” the lady replied. “It’s not too late,” my spouse replied. We can either make things happen or flee.” “Can you leave your wife for me?” the lady inquired. “If only you’d leave your marriage,” my husband replied.
“Wow! Is he seeing a married woman? He decided to cheat on me with a married woman out of all the women in the world. “What do you think he sees in her?”
I had all of the necessary evidence, but I didn’t rush. I desired more. I was hoping to get a look at the woman’s photo. I wanted to see her and see what she has that I lacked. I was curious about her job and whether or not she had children.
I was curious about her husband’s name. Anything goes. I wanted to have all of the facts available before confronting my spouse with them. I took the lady’s number but had no idea where to begin.
I became enraged every time I saw him pleased in front of his phone. There was a significant shift in me, but the head of my house was unable to perceive it. Perhaps he did and chose to disregard it. I was giving him straightforward responses. I, too, began to isolate myself.
I was hoping he’d approach me with shuperu and I’d say no, but he never did. I began to recall the moment he approached me for shuperu and I couldn’t recall anything. Every time we did it, I started it.
Another method for detecting a man’s cheating inclinations. They’ve stopped asking for super, something they used to do every night.
Days turned into weeks, and weeks turned into a month. I couldn’t get into his Whatsapp to see what was going on. I couldn’t call the woman as well. She owed me no explanation for cheating on my spouse when she had her own.
His phone’s screen flashed up one day, and the name that showed was Eli. He looked at the phone and then away from it as if he hadn’t seen her call. “You have a call,” I said. “He’s coming to worry me, I won’t mind him,” he replied.
“Him? “Is that Eli?”
“Yes, he’s a work colleague.” Why?”
“Pick the call and put it on the loudspeaker; let’s see if we can hear a man’s voice.” Pick up the phone!”
“What are you talking about?” Why are you acting as if you know more about the one phoning than I do?”
“I know her, but not as well as you. “How can I possibly know someone you’ve been sleeping with more than you?”
He called me insane. To keep me quiet, he began flexing his authority. “How dare you speak to your spouse like that?” “What happened to you?”
“Would you like to know what has happened to me?” I inquired. “Eli has taken hold of me. You’re not ashamed of your affair with another man’s wife. You’re even waiting for her to
He described me as insane. He began exercising his authority in order to keep me quiet. “How dare you speak to your husband in such a manner?” “What has happened to you?” “Would you like to know what has come over me?” I inquired.
“Eli has taken over. You’re not ashamed about cheating on another man’s wife. You’re even hoping she’ll leave her spouse so you can leave me for her. Or have you decided to flee with her, as you suggested?”
He became silent when he realized I knew too much. “I know where her spouse works,” I said. I’ll go see him tomorrow and present him with the evidence. I hope that makes you happy because your dream of her leaving her spouse will come true, and you will marry her.” My hubby remained silent.
He sat there, embarrassed and perplexed, gazing at his phone. I went away since there was no reason to bash a man who was already down. He woke me up in the middle of the night, knelt by the bed, and begged me.
He made numerous promises, including one to repay me for my suffering. He pledged never to do it again and showed me proof.
He woke me up in the middle of the night, knelt by my bed, and begged me. He made a lot of promises, including one to recompense me for my sorrow. He pledged never to do it again and showed me a message he sent to her a while ago saying it was all finished. “I swear it won’t happen again.”
I didn’t forgive him then and there. I asked for time to heal and if I had done something wrong for him to go that far. He admitted that I had done nothing wrong, but that he had done everything wrong.
He gave me the space I needed, and I healed over time. As I previously stated, he was cheating on me, yet he never shied away from his obligation to me or treated me poorly. Everything was OK except for the emotional void. It was difficult to forgive, but I did so for the sake of peace.
I discovered he was still seeing the woman eight months later. He had changed her name to Eric on his phone, but he couldn’t change their topic of talk. When I found out, I was four months pregnant. I didn’t say anything. I’d had enough. There was no point in acting angry. My father’s house has so many rooms waiting for me that one day I packed my belongings and went without telling him.
When he called to see where I was, I told him, “I’ve informed my parents of my plan to divorce.” Inform your folks that we are coming. We’ll meet them as soon as we can.” “What are you saying?” he yelled. “What occurred?” “Eric happened,” I explained. “Our marriage ended because Eli turned Eric.”
He continues to beg. Our child is three months old now. He pays a visit and takes advantage of the occasion to beg pardon. I’ve forgiven him, but I’m not returning to the marriage. My parents are postponing the process in the hopes that the arrival of our child will cause me to reconsider. They have no idea what kind of heart I have. When my child is old enough to be placed in the care of others, I will begin the legal process to end my marriage. He can go ahead and marry Eli so that I can rest easy.
-Ella
